Most People travel through life without ever exploring deeply what they want, where they are going or why they do what they do.
Doesn’t it sound silly that the majority of people will spend more time planning a special occasion than planning their life? They sit around feeling dissatisfied and look for reasons to justify why they are where they are!
Step 1 to healthy boundaries is to stop looking to pass the buck onto someone or something else for were you are in your life. Take full reasonability for the choices that you have made and the consequences that have come from them.
Step 2 is to view failure as a learning lesson. Life is about learning and we cannot possibly have responded in the past with the information that we have now as we didn’t have that information back then. Give yourself permission to make mistakes (it’s natural) and spend the time to find the learning lesson in each situation.
Step 3. Recognise that other people are on the learning lesson of life as well. They have their own lessons and consequence to learn from. If you save them all the time they miss out on the lessons and the situation keeps returning.Give others permission to own their own responses, reactions and consequences.
Don’t take their emotions on as yours.
Step 4. Is forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you stop keeping a journal on the things they did wrong, you accept them as a person on a learning journey and be polite.
Put your walls down knowing that you are helping yourself by forgiving them it actually has nothing to do with them or excusing their behaviour. Use wisdom with your healthy boundaries to stop the person’s behaviour before it has opportunity to escalate.
Step 5. Is plan you’re your life. Take note of the things that you enjoy and are passionate about. Be as detailed as possible. Break it down into 1 year, 5 year and 10 year goals. Make your passion your job and then set your course with the steps to make it happen.
Move past fear to create the life that you want and keep the focus. Many things will come up that look like a part of what you desire but it won’t be the full dream, do not be enticed by them, keep going until it happens.
If you struggle with any of these steps then please feel free to contact me at WWW.TMMLifecoaching.com You deserve the best life possible and I can help you to create it.
This article was submitted by Theresa Mitchell, come and meet our business group each week at our networking events in Tweed Heads.